Like many second-time brides, I’m wondering should I wear white to my second wedding? According to modern etiquette, anything goes. But that doesn’t mean its an easy choice.
As a second time bride I can choose to wear pretty much anything! Doesn’t that just open up a whole world of wonderful possibilities?
Should I wear white to my second wedding?
I actually quite like the idea of non-traditional white or ivory dresses for encore brides. But I personally think veils and long white wedding gowns look ridiculous on divorcées and older brides… in a mutton dressed as lamb sort of way. It’s not good.
From the second Robert slipped Jackie onto my finger, I knew I wouldn’t be going the traditional bridal route. I’ve done the white dress and veil and now I want to wear something that reflects my style and who I am as a woman, wife, and bride.
For about 10 seconds, I entertained the thought of a vintage tiara and a knee-length 50’s inspired a-line dress in ivory, but it was too bridal and seemed reserved for a demure type of bride that just doesn’t exist post-divorce and close to forty.
Taking inspiration from Gibraltar’s most famous bride and groom, I could go mod with a minidress and white boots or platform sandals. The 60’s are my style muse and I can totally get onboard with this idea, but if I don’t pull it off 100%, it’ll end up looking like a costume and result in deep, lifelong wedding photo regret. Ill conceived and poorly executed wedding themes are a modern tragedy… I won’t be cruel enough to post links, but take my word for it ;-)
Or I could go with an elegant, slightly slinky bombshell-inspired dress in white or ivory. While I like the idea of a non-traditional white or ivory dress, I’m not sure I see myself wearing one.
My grandmother chose my first wedding dress… a cheap, scratchy meringue from David’s Bridal. It smelled like fish, and the veil was decorated with rhinestones and faux pearls that photographed like bugs caught in a mosquito net! I looked ridiculous. I looked like me dressed up in a bride costume. It’s been 14 years and still hate that dress!
Wedding gowns are a racket anyway. The price-tag on that horrible David’s Bridal meringue wasn’t exactly cheap but it was definitely built not to last. The stitching was sloppy and coming apart, the beading was substandard, and the fabric was embarrassingly third-rate. For the same amount of money, I could’ve had my pick of designer dresses that looked amazing, felt amazing, and could’ve been worn time and time again.
This time, screw the wedding industry! I want a stunning designer dress that I’ll wear again and again because I love it so much that I cannot bear not to wear it again.
Here are my top choices for ivory and white wedding dresses for me as a second-time bride…
This one is from Alexander McQueen and it’s the most wedding-y of the bunch. I can’t see myself re-wearing it, but it’s an Alexander McQueen and I can totally see myself wearing it in Gibraltar with my Christian Louboutins and a hand-tied bouquet of red roses to match those beautiful red soles!
This one is by the Italian label Fairly, which doesn’t have the pedigree I’d like, but there’s something about this one. It looks like something Marilyn Monroe would’ve worn to one of her weddings… and that counts for something ;-)
And finally, here’s an actual vintage 1960’s shift dress. I love the idea of getting married in vintage, but trying to find a vintage dress in London over the course of one weekend is cutting it a bit too close for my taste. Maybe I’ll be able to talk Robert into a vintage dress-vow renewal-handfasting after we’ve fled Denmark ;-)
Will I wear white to my second wedding?
No, I most likely won’t be wearing white to my second wedding. It just doesn’t represent who I am, how I see myself, and how I want to present myself on my wedding day. There are so many other colors and styles that appeal to me much more than a white bridal dress. When else will I have carte blanche to go out and buy any designer dress I want, guilt free?
But if you’re a second time bride who’s asking yourself, should I wear white to my second wedding? And if you have your heart set on wearing white, why not go for it? It’s your day, your dress, your memories, and your photos. Do as you please and make no apologies.
Are you remarried or planning a second wedding? What did you wear? How did you answer the burning question, should I wear white to my second wedding?